Last month we celebrated the first Honors Chapel of our school year. Over the years reactions to such events have become more diverse and complex, with various questions raised: In the case of recognition for good conduct, why do we honor students for things we expect of them as a matter of course? Do we adults hold ourselves to the same standards for our behavior? Regarding academic honors, why do we use grades as the sole criteria for recognition? Does that not leave out some of our grittiest students whose persistence and achievement might not be fully recognized by the numbers? Good questions indeed, and they usually inspire me to focus on inclusion in my remarks at these chapels. At last month’s Honors Chapel I noted an “honor roll” available to everyone. Dictionary.com’s first definition of “honor” reads as follows: honesty, fairness, and integrity in one’s beliefs and actions.
Living a life with honor is attainable for each of us, no matter our “grades.” However, it is not necessarily an easy thing to do. In fact, at least in my case, it has been a lifelong journey to live more honorably over time. What has helped me immensely has been my spiritual practice to thank God each day for the gift of that day and to express my desire to live that day with honor. At the end of the day, I spend a brief time reflecting prayerfully on whether I have truly lived it with honor. I have days when my reflection is tinged with regret when I recognize the moments when I could have acted more honorably. In those moments I pray that I may have the gift of another day on which I can once again commit to living it with honor.
I thought of those remarks again this month when I read the news that Dictionary.com had selected “xenophobia” as its Word of the Year: fear or hatred of foreigners, people from different cultures, or strangers. How sad that this is so, but it also serves as added inspiration to aspire to find a place on the one honor roll that really matters.
Until next time…
Last week I celebrated my 70th birthday, a number I once could not have imagined. I am on the “cutting edge” of the baby boom generation since those of us born in 1946 are considered the first (or oldest, if you prefer) baby boomers. We clung to the notion not to trust anyone over 30 until we reached that age. I suspect that baby boomers like myself are responsible for the entire 40 is the new 30, 50 the new 40, etc., phenomenon. I actually saw a suggestion in a magazine that 70 is now the new 50! That nugget arrived on my radar just in time for my 70th birthday. I don’t believe it, but I do welcome the notion that attitude and engagement with life makes a huge difference regarding how we choose to live each day.
Some birthdays resonate more than others, and those that end in zero are among them. Actually, I was provided some helpful perspective years ago by my now-deceased mother. She sent me a happy 30th birthday card on my 29th birthday (see comment above about not trusting everyone over 30 and the presumed traumatic effect of turning that age for baby boomers). I had to conclude that it could not be that big a deal if my own mother lost count. Last year this lesson was reinforced when a friend sent me a happy 70th birthday card a year early.
Nonetheless, there is something when both digits in a person’s age change. Completion of another decade of life feels like a bit of an accomplishment. And to me, it feels even more like a blessing. My birthday was made especially memorable since I was able to spend it in the midst of our students, faculty, and staff. How many people are lucky enough to be serenaded on one’s birthday by well over 500 people, the vast majority of whom are age 14 and under? I am still feeling incredibly blessed today, a good reminder that each day can be blessed if we embrace it as the gift it is. Today is after all in a very real sense the only one we have to embrace.
Until next time…
P.S. An observation: We first baby boomers seem to love the spotlight and have difficulty leaving the stage. Two people with whom I share the same birth year have already served as US Presidents, and another is a candidate this year. That said, I feel supremely grateful that I have the privilege to do the work I do in the community in which I do it!